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Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Beautiful solitude

I have a small family and a selected, small circle of friends. I’m not comfortable in large crowds. I prefer a lonely road to a busy street, birdsong to loud human voices. In spite of this, I don’t consider myself a loner. I do enjoy the company of friends and meeting new people just as much as I enjoy my precious hours alone.

We come into this world all by ourselves and we will leave this world in the same manner and yet to many, being alone is almost a punishment to be avoided at all cost. I’ve seen so many people ruin their lives by clinging on to unhealthy relationships just to avoid being alone. Beautiful, smart individuals unable to be at ease with themselves, unable to tell the difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

When my children were small and while I was teaching them to brush their teeth and tie their shoelaces, I also taught them to look for joy within themselves and that, as The Beatles once said, “the movement you need is on your shoulder.” I wanted to make sure that when they grew up they’d be able to go to the movies, to a restaurant, on a trip, alone, and that the ability to enjoy it all was simply within themselves and nowhere else. They are both grown up now and it fills me with joy to see they learned that lesson well.

Being alone and feeling lonely... I hope that you, my dear friends, are able to tell the difference and enjoy your own company and that beautiful solitude.

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  1. Hi Alina,
    This is a lovely post about solitude and it is important to enjoy your own company. In some professions, like being an artist or a writer, you have to spend many hours working alone...
    I also enjoy being around small groups of people. I would find it difficult to go to a rock concert, now I'm older. I prefer peaceful places these days.:)
    Have a lovely week.

  2. Hello Alina,
    I must say I've only been here a few times, but each time I have felt a sense of serenity and beauty emanate from your writing and images. I look forward to stopping by often I wish you a lovely day in your world!

  3. Alina, this posts underscores the feeling that I have found a kindred spirit in you. You said it perfectly~ xxVicki

  4. Jo, so nice to see you! I think that one of the greater things found in getting older is the appreciation of finer things, we are no longer worried or trying "to fit in."

    Sandra, hello and welcome! Thank you so much for your kind words. I've just visited your lovely place and you can be sure I, too, will visit you often. Have a beautiful day xx

    Dear Vicki, I feel exactly the same xx

  5. Alina, this post is so beautiful, and I couldn't agree more...I love my little group of friends, but I absolutely adore my solitude, in fact I crave it...there is nothing better than taking myself on little dates to wonderful places. Your blog is a lovely little world that I will come back and visit often...the way you write captures something deep within me...

  6. Lovely post Alina, I too dont like crowds, and prefer peaceful places.

  7. Carousel Dreams, thank you for stopping by. I will look forward your visits and will certainly make frequent stops at your wonderful Blog.

    Morgaine, I can just tell you too prefer peaceful, quiet places :)

  8. Hi Alina! I loved this post, and I feel the exact same way! xoxo Paulette


Albert Schweitzer said "In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit" I thank you all!